Compassionate Uncoupling
“Breaking up is hard to do.”
… as the song lyrics go.
It’s tough enough to figure out how to live life on your own after so many years of living with a partner.
What makes it even harder is figuring how to peacefully coexist for the sake of your children, business, family and friends.
Working through pain for a new normal…
There are questions that have been left unanswered. Even after all the words have been yelled and tears shed, there are questions and feelings left unexpressed:
“Why didn’t we work out? I still don’t understand.”
“I hate how much I hurt you. I feel guilty for wanting to leave.”
“We both know it’s time to split, but we just don’t know how to do it.”
“Everything seemed okay. Why now?”
“What’s so wrong with me? Am I really that terrible?”
“I still want to work it out.”
“I feel like I wasted so many years if we weren’t going to end up together.”
“How can I move forward? This marriage and this life are all I know how to do.”
“I’m so angry. How can I possibly be civil toward you?”
“There’s a part of me that hates you, but I also still love you.”
“I didn’t want to admit it, but you were right. We don’t work as a couple anymore.”
“I’m afraid the kids will blame me for the breakup.”
“How are we going to tell our family and friends?”
It can seem impossible to move through the grief and anger to find the new normal.
Yet, when you have a guide to help you say what you need to say and give and get compassion, you each will find that other side. You will heal.
When we meet in therapy, there will be awkwardness at first; difficult conversations will be had.
At the beginning, I will encourage each of you to share what led to the decision to end the relationship. Naturally, there will be disagreements in perception and that’s okay.
I will help both of you honor your mutual rights to those different perspectives. You will gain a better understanding even if you ultimately disagree with your ex’s take.
From there, I’ll show you how to say your piece in a constructive manner, so you can get those deeply personal questions answered and feelings shared.
Strategy is a necessary component of the transition, and it comes the deeper we get into the process; how to tackle the conversations with loved ones, and how to deal with each other day-to-day when there’s so much water under the bridge.
You can recover from break-up trauma.
I’m not here to negotiate financial or custodial arrangements. That’s what your lawyers or mediators are for.
I’m here to offer a tangible, gentle way to recover from the breakup trauma and create a new type of relationship that honors the loving feelings you once shared.
It can be done, and I will show you how.
Contact me for help managing the shift.
You’ve decided that it’s time to let go but need help managing the transition. I’m here and ready to help build your new normal.
Call now to begin: (818) 971-7155